My own 'cancer story' began in 1998 while I was living in New York City. At the time, my 62-year-old mother, who lived in Malaysia, was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. After hearing her diagnosis, I decided to return home to be with her, in what I thought would be her final months.
To everyone’s relief, she gradually recovered after her surgery and chemotherapy (although she would go on to have two more surgeries to remove more tumours in 2001 and 2004). It was revealed that she had an increased risk of familial bowel cancer, as her own mother had previously passed from the same cancer.
After every cancer treatment was completed, she was a model patient. She had her regular oncologist follow-ups, took the various tests required and cheerfully had a colonoscopy annually. At every opportunity, I would ask her oncologist what else we could or should be doing to lower her risk of recurrence. The answer was always the same - eat well, exercise and be happy. It was said without the offering of any specific care plan, which was quite typical advice from many conventional medicine practitioners, even to this day.
In February 2020, mom found a lump in her right breast, which was later diagnosed as a hormone-sensitive (ER/PR-positive) breast cancer. It was unrelated to her previous colon cancer diagnoses. A mastectomy was performed two weeks later and thankfully she was discharged just before Malaysia went into its nationwide COVID-19 lockdown.
She found her recovery to be more challenging this time. Not only was she in her mid-80s, but she also developed a heart condition that was exacerbated by her recent surgery and treatment. Added to that was navigating the challenges of pandemic restrictions. Except for her cardiologist and oncologist appointments, for 18 months she rarely left the house. She missed doing rehab physiotherapy, walks in her favourite park and had almost no social interaction outside of her immediately family with whom she lived.
By early 2022, almost 2 years after her breast cancer diagnosis and mastectomy, my mother was confident once again. She had resumed most of her pre-pandemic daily routine and was able to live her life fully with family and friends, albeit at a slower pace.
Mom passed away peacefully in her sleep in December 2025 at the aged of 90, surrounded by her loved ones.
My mother’s 25-plus year cancer journey has taught me many things, as I chart my path as an integrative oncology practitioner and advocate. No doubt she was one tough cookie and had shown remarkable grace and resilience in her handling of a persistent adversary within her body.
She has inspired me to do better every day to help my patients, knowing what it means to them and their families to have a passionate advocate navigating the journey together. To trust science to target cancer but just as importantly, to harness the powers of natural medicine to nourish the body and mind.
Most of all, she has taught me empowerment. She has transformed from being a patient who was once fearful of her cancer diagnosis to a woman who felt empowered with the knowledge that healing is always possible, even when sometimes curing is not.
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